THE ROMANTIC DIARY OF SPC

As per SPC :- (SPC in his eyes)

I'm an incurable romantic. I'm not sure what that actually means, but I do know how it feels, which is mostly good. Romance, for me, is much more than  boy-meets-girl. It is more of an optimistic view of the world, an expectation of beauty in everything and everyone that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It doesn't take much to make me all dewey-eyed and I am a sucker for a sob story.
The effect of this on my ability to persuade is both good and bad. Like the swings and roundabouts of a fairground, I gain in some places and lose in others. Where I gain is in the empathetic bonding I get when people tell me their stories and I offer ways to help. If they are being deceptive, however, then I will at least start by trusting them.
It was a string of disappointing deceptions many years ago that set me on the road of learning about changing minds and although I have stubbornly retained my faith in human nature, I am not quite as gullible as I once was. I am now many times better at spotting persuasion techniques and can listen with gentle amusement at sales people going for the close.
I have been on persuasion training sessions and met people who are always 'on', trying to persuade non-stop as if their life depended on it. I hope I am not like that though, like a dog with a new bone, I suspect I have been a bit over-enthusiastic when the penny of a new persuasive dimension has dropped, but generally I stick to 'normal human' mode and only turn up the volume when needs be.
Turning down the radar is harder than not persuading, and I do tend to spot persuasion. I have, however, found a sustainable quiescent position from which I can quickly prick up my bat-ears if I hear or see something going on. It is sometimes entertaining when a sales person turns on the patter, confidence that they have an easy target in their sights.
With an understanding of persuasion it would be easy to become cynical and disenchanted, seeing others as competitors or victims, but this is a route that I have deliberately avoided. I choose to see people as human, whole and essentially worthy. I am human too and like being a member of this social race. I love connecting with others, which the web lets me do to an unprecedented degree.
And so, despite its flaws and disadvantages, I think being a romantic is the best place to be.

YOURS ROMANTIC
SPC

The CCD Diaries

After a heart wrenching break up or a series of challenging relationships, we often find ourselves becoming lost in the ugly mire of projecting negative thought patterns on the world around us and onto the being within us. How many of us have witnessed ourselves thinking “love does not really exist”…. “relationships are an illusion”….. “I will never find anyone”….


Although it may be deemed a natural response to move through this cycle of thought patterns, it is in the end (as we may realize), both unhealthy and limiting.


But then we do recover from it,some take time and some like me are just fortunate enough to have plethora of people around me who made me feel so happy about myself that it never affected me.And all this happened because of two lovely people in my life one ruby and one spc and i just want to share it out as it all happened over a cup of coffee.


Case 1 : THE SPC THERAPY
When i came down to kolkata, it was probably the worst phase of my life personally ,as i had been dumped big time and then i met a rocking and rollicking guy called SPC . He had such an easy going air about him that I also started to have a feel good factor about myself. How can i forget 2 a.m trips to CCD at Infinity towers where both of us would discuss out our worst phases of life and he would just make me laugh over it making me think what a dumb-ass I am and then what it became a routine of sorts where in everyday at mid-night we would go to CCD and talk all bullshit and nonsense with a 'I GIVE A DAMN ATTITUDE' and i had my self pride coming back to me. Though such trips have reuced we still make it a point to grace CCD at City Centre with our presence.


Case 2:  THE RUBY EFFECT


As if one friend was not enough i found myself getting involved with one another girl this time. I dont know how because i had got a feeling that all girls are mean and for them all that matters is a fat purse and they just give a balls attitude to a guy's heart. But then this girl was separate, a no-fuss easy to hang out with girl, a girl with whom i became myself again, but then i always had a tingling that i cannot be serious about all this as i cannot afford to get myself hurt again. But then those trips to In&Out CCD have been awesome.I know she is always there even though this relationship does not culminate into that ultimate union. Those CCD trips have given me very nice and smiling moments. She always ensured that she took an extra effort to make sure i am at ease even though i have never reciprocated. 


All i can say is life now is so good that i want it to continue as long as it can. Some people just enter your life and just become a part of it and they are one of them. They rightly say 'A LOT CAN HAPPEN OVER A CUP OF COFFEE' and a guess waht for me a lot has already happened over a cup of coffee :)

THE CTC DEEPIKA CHUIN

Life at Metro Rail has been one hell of a roller coaster ride with its ups and downs , but we were able to tide over them smoothly mainly because of my colleagues and this one goes out for one such kiddo :P who may be is my junior but then has earned the right to be called a colleague as he has been with me through my ups and downs :)

I distinctly remember we had our get together at Puri and i was very eager to meet this guy as he was already present at the location i was transferred, and i had never heard his name.

So i landed in Puri and started to search for this guy. And my first impression was 'OMG what a smart and good looking guy, though he looked malnourished which he still does despite hogging away to glory in KFC,BARISTA,McDonalds and all such places.

So we came back from the trip and indulged ourselves in neck deep work. So about this so called chuin, he came across a very sophisticated guy in the beginning but all turned out to be jharphans as he is a total kid at his heart. I still remember how he cried when he remebered his girlfriend and all and then how quickly he recovered. Though he has a pathetic english (THE DEEPIKA EFFECT), sometimes he would just stump you over with his vocabulary. And yes he is a master at hogging at all expensive places but seeing his physique and all you just sometimes wonder that where does all the food go.(PROBABLY THE MID-DAY MEAL SCHEME EFFECT).

Probably the worst and may be the best side of him is his sentimental and emotional side. I have seen him cry (Sorry to let the secret out) from his heart but then he recovers quite quickly (Thats why post break up he has maintained an array of girls now, an array which has only insert properties). I was stunned at his knowledge as for a fresher he was quite knowledgeable and i have learnt linux. Most memorable are the times spent in Barista after office at Park Street and the 2 a.m. ccd trips :P

I have seen him as a broke and i have seen him as a confident guy, probably all his facets and he has always brought a smile on my lips,even though he is an absolute miser(ABCOS pending dude) he is a part of life now.

SO CTC CHUIN ROCKS :)

THE TC CAPTAIN

As it was i studied from a top notch school in my city and just wanted to share my experience of a classmate, very adorable, very cute and very supportive.

She was the captain of our quiz team (in fact she used to be the only player, we only used to take our certificates and trophies). As far as my memory goes she came to our class in 8th standard from the 'B' section which had lots of beautiful girls(off course she being one of them) and the favorite of all English teachers. I still am out of wits as to how did she managed to score such heavy marks in English(Probably had a setting with the English department). And then the best thing happened,she and me had t sit together for classes. Initially she was a snub, who with her Mitsubhisi pen would keep scribbling away notes and would never share even a pencil. But then gradually she opened up and god she was such a chatterbox.

The girl who introduced me to English songs(Whigfield if i remember) which i never understood and she had it remembered.The girl who would come in S3 from sector-3 early to meet someone special and yes they made such a lovely couple.

She was my bench mate for almost 2 years till our 10th board and then we had to switch sections after 10th and interactions reduced. And then she graduated from being a CAPTAIN to GURUMA who would be ready with her MLs for just anything and everything. And then we just went our ways completely oblivious of each other lives.

And again we met, she had transformed into a well groomed and matured girl with her head over her shoulders. And it was so refreshing to see her, at the same time so odd that after so many years she could still remember the voice and face.

A girl who is just a complete package good looking,smart,intelligent and above all no hassle lady who always talks so well and so smoothly with her innocuous MLs and that English vocab.Sometimes you just feel proud for having such a friend in life.

CAPTAIN or GURUMA ,TC always rocks. Hope the other TC takes some clue out of her 

THE 'CO-OPERATIVE' GIRL

Ok so as it goes there are very few people from the fairer sex whom i genuinely respect(in general i respect all). Now this one's a tribute to one such girl.

          If i am correct it was our fourth semester and the results had come out(first time i topped) but the joy was short-lived as we had to submit some freaking project on our training. Now the problem of topping the class is that people expect you to know everything without realising that it had nothing to do with the course.

So, as planned the team was formed. We were 5 people, 2 boys and 3 girls (good beginning) ,just that one guy was completely besotted with one girl. So,that effectively left 4 people in the group. I knew only 3 people in the group but was unaware of the 4th one.

So finally the day arrived when we had to sit down and discuss the project and that too at the reading room and as usual THE GIRLS had come all prepared and as usual THE BOYS did come, one guy (thats me) for formality and time pass and the other one because he was simply smitten by one of team members.

So as it turned out we met and sat down for our project which i knew just could not happen, and there i met this sober cute girl with that easy going no fuss attitude. She was chilled in a way only dipsites could be with no tensions and so as it had to happen the meeting ended with no results and over the period of time we met some times and then even project went of successfully(YOU STILL OWE ME THAT TREAT GAL)

I just stuck that chord with her instantly who you could call at any time and then discuss any nonsense and she would lend a ear to it.A girl who can gel with any one and every one and probably takes out the gentleman from the fellow in front.But then as it happens in general she was a terrific student always immersed in her antennas and always scoring good infact best marks sometimes, which would give you complex so many times.

And as it had to happen she cracked MBA and that too KJS, and when she called up to convey that she was so chilled which only she could have done, I would have jumped in air if it the case with me, though i have flunked twice now, and even then she will tell me you have done well.

I think there are very few people who are so humble and so grounded and who always make you feel good about yourself and it always induces that feel good factor. So girl whenever you need us we are always there even if you need an OMNI :P

THE SPC THERAPY

So after a long time back to writing again (guruji was absent from bloggin so me too )

Many a times it does happen that nothing goes well in your life, be it your personal or professional life. Suddenly it seems that nothing is going as it should have been and you found yourself down in the dumps. So how does one recover. Well i found out a therapy for that the SPC therapy :P

So this one is for my adorable roomie (SPC as they call him). I still distinctly remember the day when i first talked to him as he had put himself as the owner of the house on the site where i found the house i had to stay with many happy memories to follow. First reaction 'Pakka khaddos ladka hai' , must be a typical software engineer just like geeks and all.

And then when i shifted, I had very little interactions with all of them, and i started thinking i have come in the middle of some dementors. But then it all changed when every one opened up and every day there were new chapters in the SPC therapy, the key points listed below :-

1) Never continue in a relationship for long. Always go for a change( Point in case is every time SPC gets one and we people are still searching for the first one :P)

2) Never be happy with your job. If you are you are not fit to be a software engineer. Always look up to Oracle baba for inpiration.

3) Live life king size and enjoy to the fullest ( Probably with a NOTE in the NINJA style :P)

4) Chicken and CCD should be out of bounds periodically but one chance and will pounce on it :P.

4) Before any one hurts you, you hurt the other person, atleast one doesn't feel bad.

Having said that i think my entire thinking style has become defunct and i have been completely hypnotised by the SPC therapy, and then why not because if i am happy then ba*** to ideal living and thinking stuff, who cares. There are certain times in life when you always try to do right things and then they dont pan out in the way one wants to.So what doesn't mean you are a bad person but then certain times people do not get it. The therapy clearly states that one should be proud of oneself and no one should have that right to hurt you or play with you and your emotions. And if people try to do so do it to them before they do it to you, atleast you wont be unhappy. He can just blow you away with his so unorthodox but then quite true theories and ideologies and people may hate him but then those close to him know that he is right, infact he always has been.(LAKETOWN EXPERIENCE)

BOTTOMLINE IS SPC ROCKS!!!!!(WHAT'S UP BUOY)

Love and Other Basic Calculations

Love is just a calculation. Before you decide to get into 'something special' with someone, there are a certain things you calculate and derive calculations, depending on which you may or may not have a relationship.

First you calculate if the other person is good enough for you to date or not. Is he tall enough? Is she hot enough? Is he rich enough? Is she hot enough? Is he interesting/funny enough? Is she hot enough? Is he intelligent enough? Is she hot enough? Most people you meet never match your criteria you set.They are a total reject. But then there are you meet your criteria. And then a new set of calculations start. You calculate if getting into something with 'that' someone will affect your mental peace.

Would he treat me well? Would she be good at love? Would he care enough? Would she be too demanding? Would be to possessive? Would she be extra sensitive? Would he give me enough time? would she be too clingy?

And then the most popular question' WOULD THIS INTERFERE MY CAREER'?

And what if your loved one stays miles apart from you? You would anything and everything to make it work. The beginning is awesome with you never leaving your IM, telling your love how much you miss their presence. But it grows old and you start to struggle. And then again  - CAREER.

But you like each other! So what is the solution ? A strictly open physical relationship that does not demand too much of your time and does not have a hassle of a real relationship.And you get all the perks!!! What can be better??

Ha! As if love follows a plan.

Basically the point is  - Love cannot be planned. It is like gravity. You can try to go against it, but you really can't. You can jump off the cliff trying to fly but u will not and you will fall, which is inevitable. Similarly falling in love is inevitable.

And if you are smart enough to recognise that it is real, you should be smart enough to fight for it and never let it go.Life does not give you second chances.

Don't let love ever pass by you.

P.S.- This is dedicated to all those people who found true love,lost it and again fought for it to get it back. Thank you NIKITA SINGH and SANJAY YADAV

The complexity called GIRLS

As usual it was weekend (friday night) and as usual the maid bunked. (I was happy though as we would go out to eat but roomies weren't).It was decided that we would bring something from outside and rice would be cooked at home. So we zoomed off on our bike and went to our favourite eat-out place.We were outside waiting for our order(in fact we were looking at all d beautiful gals who had come out on friday night with their respective better halves cursing ourselves). And then suddenly that voice sounded 'Hi sourabh how r u??' I turned back and OMG she looked all the more radiant,resplendent,vivacious as usual but then i hated her as becoz i had been dumped 2 years back by her just becoz i wasn't a MBA and a MBA boy had proposed her). But this sudden conversation left me gaping and i was at loss of words. 'I am gud how r u doin??'  And then came the deadly question 'Did you find yourselves other gal?' No came the answer (she must be happy i know). I told my roomie to collect the things and left as fast as possible. But since then why i dont know why i cant get her off me.She dumped me,I should be angry but I wasn't, I was feeling disturbed and i was kicking myself why did I see her,Life was good without her ( It was better when she was a part of it) and why she had to come back.(By that tym I realised i had to pay and my roomie was calling up frantically). I went back and she was still there and pat came the reply' I knew you would come back??' I dint say anything paid the money and came back. I jut dont realise how can a girl have so much impact on my life that too the one who had dumped me..........Why this kolaveri di??

Neighbour in Metro

So i am out with the second blog quite after some time after retail therapist's new one inspired me again to write.

Its been quite some days that i have shifted to Kolkata or the so called poor man's metro.Initially it was a struggle to find a new home or rather the home which suited me or even deserved me. Initial searches seemed all futile and i was running out of time.But then sulekha.com rescued me and i found a very good house with very good roomies. As it had to happen residence and office are quite far away so usually after going back i would crash on my bed.Now it was my first saturday here and unfortunately i got up quite early in the morning and was in a fix as to what do i do now?? I came out of the room and sat in my courtyard enjoying the winter sun.But then that cute,lovely,beautiful figure came out from the house across with ipod in her ears,she herself humming the song(At that point she was the best playback singer). She said 'Hi' and frittered away for the jog. She looked like a diva,beauty glorified(i cant even find words here).

5 mins i put on my track suite,my shoes and sprinted behind her(first time in around 10-12 years i went for morning run) to the adjoining park in our locality. I kept running and when i t looked like i will faint she stopped did some stretching exercise(i followed needless to say), came up and asked 'You are new aren't u'. I just smiled back and then we stuck a conversation in which she always had the better of me. We sat at Sharma tea had one cup and then i asked her what do you do? Se replied 'I study' without any fuss.Then i popped what do ur parents do?? ' I dont have one' I spilled my cup of tea and looked at her. She said she lost her parents without any fuss. God she looked so radiant. But then came out the reply ' dont even think u have any chance as i already have git one'. Man how come all lovely beautiful girls are committed but she looked so vivacious that i dint have any objection to her having one boy already .I was ready to be the second one. After all Charles Darwin has said 'Struggle for Existence,Survival of the fittest'..

To be continued.......

How to figure her out?

Finally i start after long periods of immense thoughts if i shud blog or nt as i think for being a blogger u need a terrific angrezi which i lack. However i hv read quite a few blogs and so got inspired. ths one is about a girl or u can say a woman (if maturity is the key)

Now this girl, how hard u try to figure her out, the more confused u become. She will be very down very depressing at one moment and next moment she will be up and infact even pulling you up. A girl who thinks a suitable boy is very hard to find so doesnt try also. A girl who thinks MBA is a cake walk except that we ppl keep failing in it. A girl for whom shopping is the ultimate cure of all lowness and depressions (infact it worked on me also).

So normal question is how does one get magnetised by her. Well the answer is very straightforward, she keeps things simple yet unconventional, even if she is low she can pull you up in minutes by her uncanny quotes, even though she won give a treat (infact there is a very long list) she would ensure that u get treated by her blogs quotes and so called retail therapy (very useful in depressions).

But then no one knows ( I dont know) how to pull her up. All efforts go in complete vain. I just think even the god who created her will take some time to figure her out. The intense persona,that calm aura ,those straightforward NOs those blatant replies but still we dont why we are magnetised by her